Divorce can be described as an “ambiguous loss.” The person who you were married to is still alive, but the love has died.  Divorcing individuals often mourn the loss of the future and dreams and hopes with their partners. They may have to cope with lots of confusion as they restart their lives. As with any grief, it may be very hard for the individual to know what they need to heal. 

At times we can feel so frustrated with our partners that we enter a state Gottman Couples Therapy calls “Negative Sentiment Override” (NSO).  In that state, we see another individual as only the amalgamation of their most upsetting and problematic qualities. 

Anxiety can tell us when a threat is coming, it can signal us to mobilize resources, and it can help us prepare for future events. Anxiety keeps us safe. But intense persistent anxiety, as in Generalized Anxiety Disorder, can be problematic.

One difference is that a CBT therapist aims to be very collaborative with the client. The client is an active participant in the therapy process. In addition, CBT sessions are structured in a way that makes them more efficient. The CBT model aims for a shorter therapeutic process than other types of therapy.

It is human to feel judgmental, frustrated, angry, or irritable when your partner has OCD. But if you can let go of judgment and be calm and supportive, that is something that can really help.

It can feel like OCD is blocking your relationship. You may want to help but feel unsure about what to do. Following the steps described below will help, as will meeting with a qualified professional.

It can be very challenging to have a loved one or partner with OCD. The disorder can seem confusing. You may feel controlled and frustrated by your loved one. It can feel like OCD is blocking your relationship.